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About Me

I have a B.S. in Psychology from Texas A&M University, and a M.A. in Professional Counseling from Texas State University. I am currently a member of Texas Counseling Association, and the Texas Chapter of the Association of Play Therapy. I have worked in a variety of settings and have counseled numerous clients with many different challenges. I have conducted home-based therapy, church-based therapy, therapy in school settings, and worked for a private agency. I currently enjoy working in my own private practice based in Humble, TX. I reside in the Humble area with my husband of 16 years, and four precious children.

About My Counseling

I counsel primarily from the Adlerian perspective using supportive techniques. It's mission is to encourage the development of psychologically healthy and cooperative individuals, children,couples, and families in order to effectively pursue the ideals of social equality and democratic living.

An optimistic and inspiring approach to psychotherapy, it balances the equally important needs for optimal development of the individual as well as social responsibility. I believe that incorporating a person's faith in their therapy is also essential to the therapeutic process.

Marital Therapy

I support Couples through the process of healing and turning toward one another utilizing Adlerian Theory as a base for support. I also incorporate techniques from John Gottman's: The Marriage Clinic: A Scientifically Based Marital Therapy and Harville Hendrix's: Getting the Love You Want.

Family Therapy

Family Therapy is very powerful and I utilize solution-focused and psychodynamic approaches. I help families learn more effective communication and I advocate for those that have a challenge feeling heard. All parts of a family are important, and everyone's perspective deserves to be heard. I provide a safe environment for every one to voice their opinion and I help mediate when there are difficult issues to be discussed.


I enjoy working with teens and I strive to provide them with a safe place where they can work through their life challenges. Teens often feel misunderstood, and feel their emotions go unnoticed. I work with teens' parents to help them learn how to listen to and communicate more effectively with their teen. I utilize the same Adlerian perspective with teens that I do with adults, but in addition I may incorporate art-therapy or sand-tray therapy along with talk-therapy. Each teen is unique and so I vary my approach to meet their specific needs and interests.

Play Therapy

I conduct Adlerian Play therapywithchildren ages 9-11. Children often have a difficulty expressing themselves verbally, andusing therapeutic play can enhance their ability to process their emotions.While working with children I often involve the parents or the entire family during the therapeutic process, because greater involvement usually leads to quicker and better improvement in the child’s behavior. Parental involvement also helps to achieve long lasting results.

Basic Adlerian Concepts:

Children are social beings

A child's behavior is goal oriented

A child's primary goal is to belong and feel significant

A misbehaving child is a discouraged child

Social interest or responsibility, a desire to contribute

A child is equal in value to adults

Mistakes are opportunities to learn

Make sure the message of love gets through

An Approach to Understanding Children:

A Child's Temperament

Every child has his own unique way of being in the world. Some children are quiet and calm, others are outgoing and active. Some children prefer thelibrary others the outdoors. Observing and accepting your child's inherent temperament can guide you on how to parent them in ways that fit their particular preferences.

Heredity and Environment

Nature or nurture? This has been debated for years and will likely continue.What has the most influence on children their heredity or the environment theyare raised in? Many things are determined by heredity and cannot be changed but nevertheless make an impact on the child: how tall you are, the color of youreyes, the color of your skin. But the environment you provide for you childrenis flexible. The atmosphere you as parents create, your style of relating toeach other, family values all contribute to the family environment.

Birth Order

A child's position in the family is also significant. Every child is born into a different family. For instance when the oldest child is born, parents may be struggling financially. When the second child arrives the family is more stableand experienced in child rearing. The youngest child has many people at herbeck and call! There are generalized traits that oldest, middle and youngest children exhibit and being familiar with them can help parents understand their children's behavior.

Gender Roles

Society has ideas and standards for girls and boys, men and women. As goodparents, it is important not to be caught up in stereotypes like boys don't cook, girls are emotional. These concepts can excuse bad behavior or discourage talents.

Child Development

Parents who educate themselves about child development are better equipped to understand their child's behavior. At certain ages or stages of development we can expect different abilities from children. Knowledge of those abilities can help guide parents in their expectations.

Why Children Misbehave

  • Children are social beings. Children strive to find their place first in their family and then society. From infancy a child's earliest attempts are infinding ways to belong and be significant. Their behavior is goal oriented.They continue behaviors that result in being included and abandon behaviors that exclude them.
  • Children as Observers

However, while children are very good observers they can easily misinterpret their observations, drawing the wrong conclusions. This misinterpretation underlies their mistaken ways (misbehavior) used to find their place in the family.

Three year old Sam watches intently as his mother is busy with his new baby brother. He correctly observes that the new baby takes much of mother's time and there is less attention for him. But he mistakenly interprets that to get mother's attention one must be helpless.Sam reverts back to soiling himself after having been toilet trained for 6months.

Children do not know "why" they misbehave. They learn by trial and error. They see the results of what they do. If the desired result is produced by misbehavior it will continue. As parents begin to learn how to understand the child's goal of misbehavior, It gives them clues on how to guide children toward more positive behavior.

Four Goals of Misbehavior:

  1. Undue Attention - All children desire and need attention. But a child who needs attention all the time will resort to behavior to keep others busy with him or get special treatment. Parents will feel annoyed, irritated, worried and/or guilty. The parent responds by scolding or warnings and the child is temporarily satisfied but not for long.
  2. Power - For some children their mistaken goal is to be in charge and be the "boss". By their misbehavior they are saying "I am in control" or "You can't make me". Parents feel provoked, challenged, angry, threatened and/or defeated and will meet the child in a power struggle. If the parent gives in the child "wins" and stops the behavior until the next power struggle arises.
  3. Revenge - These children often feel they have been hurt or that they can never win in a power struggle. They feel the only way to belong is to get even. Parents feel hurt, disappointed, disbelieving, disgusted and rejected by this form of misbehavior.
  4. Assumed Inadequacy - Often a child will just give up displaying helplessness. They want to be left alone so they have no expectations to live up to. Parents feel like giving up, doing for, over helping and helpless to do anything. For many children this form of misbehavior is displayed only in certain areas like homework or activities.

These four goals of misbehavior giveparents the clues they need to redirect their children and help them find positive ways to achieve their need to belong. Understanding that children are not consciously plotting their misbehavior but it is based on a child's mistaken goal, goes a long way in promoting a respectful parenting style.

To identify the mistaken goal parents ask themselves 3 questions.

1. When your child misbehaves, how do YOU feel?

2. What do you as the parent most often do in response to the misbehavior?

3. What does your child do in response?


Beliefs and Feelings

You cannot change anyone else, only yourself. Improving your child's behavior comes from changing the way you respond. Your children have beliefs about how they belong and from these beliefs come emotions and actions. You also have feelings and beliefs. Becoming aware of your feelings and beliefs and making changes can make the difference in influencing your child's positive behavior.


Everyone wants and needs encouragement. The important distinction here is understanding the difference between praise and encouragement. Praise is often mistaken for encouragement. So children learn from praise that their actions must please others and that their worth is dependent on being able to perform.Encouragement on the other hand, is freely given for no other purpose than acknowledgment. It is given for participation not winning, for effort not results. Even parents need encouragement and in therapy, I am there to encourage your efforts as you learn how to be a better parent.

Listening and talking

Learning how to really listen not only works with your children but with anyone. When someone is "heard" it can change how they feel and act.It is a skill that few people have. Often when someone is speaking to us, we are thinking about the grocery list or what we are going to say next. Listening skills build better relationships with your children and can help you discover what your child is feeling. Talking to your children about your feelings begins with speaking to them with respect. Using "you messages" is ablaming, judging communication style. Using "I-messages" shows that you own your feelings, and you are telling your children how you feel without blame or put downs.

Owning the problem

This is a great way to work on training your children to handle their own problems. You must first have a system to determine who the problem belongs to.That determines the course of action to take. It gives children freedom with responsibility and allows parents to take a back seat to issues that do not directly impact them.

Beware of natural and logicalconsequences focus on solutions

"Punishment should fit the crime." How often I heard parents say,"Johnny didn't do his homework so he can't ride his bike for 2 weeks". What does riding your bike have to do with homework? How much more would Johnny learn if his parents talked to him about finding out why Johnny isn't doing his homework and work together to find a solution. One of which might be to let him handle this with his teacher without mom and dad's intervention.

A better way to describe a natural consequence is to decide what you the parent will do in a situation to help achild learn responsibility. Not all situations lend themselves to natural consequences. Sometimes you the parent have to devise a logical consequence.However, it is important to follow some criteria to ensure that the logical consequence is not really punishment.

Family meetings

Putting family meetings on the agenda is one of the most supportive things you can do. Everyone meets at a predetermined time to discuss problems, concerns, and plans for fun...together. Everyone is heard. Choices are made in a democratic way. Many problems are solved this way by a group effort.

If you are actively searching for abetter way parent your children that is respectful and democratic, contact me for more information. Your children are naturally good, inherently curious and want to cooperate and experience a real sense of belonging in their families. When you understand and practice these principles, you will be amazed at the changes that will occur in your family.

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